Common Wedding Planning Mistakes Indian Brides Make
Planning a wedding is overwhelming. Trust us, we’ve been there and done that before. As an Indian bride or South Asian bride, it’s a challenge bringing several elements together for multiple functions. Quite often we make un-intentional mistakes along the way without even realizing.
Undoubtedly, there are things that go beyond your control such as erratic weather situations. In between choosing your wedding suppliers, signing contracts and tasting wedding cake flavours, many things can go wrong and despite being highly organized, some of the most common wedding planning mistakes are so obvious it’s not funny.
Before you say “I do,” let’s say “I won’t.” Here are the most common wedding planning mistakes Indian brides make as per your responses.
Unexpected Wedding Expenses
Money isn’t the most glamorous topic to discuss when you begin wedding planning. Indian weddings after all are all about wearing the best of the best outfits, having the fanciest décor and putting up the most lavish show with loads of quality entertainment for family and friends.
Not setting a budget and taking risks, can lead you to financial debt or deepen your pockets.
Almost 100% of the time, there are going to be those unexpected expenses that spring up on you and as much as we hate to break it, you will have to bear all of these costs until your wedding day.
Good news though, is that hiring a wedding planner or co-ordinator can help keep you on track from day 1. If you run through our wedding planning checklist, you can see that the top three priorities are budget, guest list and venue. Your budget is going to set the scene and drive every decision that you make.
Do, set a budget for each category and always overestimate. Don’t forget to include charging for overtime, gifts, right through to coffee or champagne breakfast on the morning of your wedding.
Not Trusting Your Vendors
As soon as Indian brides begin wedding planning, one of the most common wedding planning mistakes they make is to doubt their wedding suppliers.
It’s quite simple to fall in love with a particular wedding vendor, based on pretty Instagram or Pinterest photographs. There comes point then when you start questioning their abilities because everything is as per how you envisioned, but you’re not getting the exact picture.
Whilst it is advisable to compare and contrast pricing and various other aspects, at the end of the day, it’s your wedding and if you don’t trust the vendors you have selected, then it’s time to move on.
Wedding suppliers go above and beyond to provide you with a high quality of service and it’s one of the most overlooked things. Be considerate as they will be able to provide you with the expert advice and feedback to help you create your dream wedding. So, if you don’t have a clear budget or vision in mind or you are finding that you’re micromanaging every detail, then it’s really difficult for them to create your dream wedding.
Do remember that your wedding vendors are here to help guide you.
Going on the Cheap
It makes sense at the beginning of your wedding planning journey to set out your wedding priorities.
If you are not partial to certain aspects, then there are ways to save money. However, a common mistake bride make is trying to save on things that probably should matter on your wedding day.
Take for instance your wedding caterer. A high-end caterer could set you back a big chunk of your budget and it’s so attractive to avoid the expense and fall into that trap of booking the cheapest caterer because they’re “cheap.”
No one wants to compromise on serving delicious food at their wedding.
Do yourself a favour and think very carefully before cutting costs.
One philosophy we are big on is making sure that you personalize your day, your way! What is perfect to one person, may not be ideal for you. You get to choose the path. So, just because your friend has planned her wedding in a particular way, doesn’t mean that your wedding has to be an exact replica.
Don’t feel obligated to invite 1000 people or rent the biggest and brightest chandelier because it’s “bigger and better.”
You don’t need to take out a loan to please everyone as it’s no competition. At the end of the day, listen to your heart and your partner.
Your wedding day is all about you and your partner and the love that you share for one another.
Inviting Anyone and Everyone
Ah, the pesky guest list!
Perhaps one of the most common wedding planning mistakes arrives at the initial stages. How do you figure out who to invite and to what event?
Should you invite that uncle or aunt who invited you to their kids wedding years ago?
Once again, have an honest conversation with your partner and family members before you structure your guest list and do not go in with the mentality that “they won’t attend.” No one can predict the percentage of guests who will respond “yes” or “no.” If it really is a factor, be practical and keep guest numbers to a minimum. You can choose to invite less number of guests to the wedding or reception party. There are no rules.
Photography: Shanti Weddings via Enchanting Indian Wedding in New Jersey: Anuradha + Nayan
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
One of the most popular pieces of advice our maharani brides have to share with us, is to not sweat the small stuff and smile.
Quite often, brides shift their focus from the celebration and the effects are detrimental. We all know how wedding planning can be mentally and emotionally draining, so looking stressed out is going to cost you unbelievably beautiful photographs and video footage!
Learn to be present and in the moment as this is the most wonderful celebration ever.
Grab a ‘cuppa coffee and breathe ladies. It will all fall into place.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this, maharanis! Let us know what you think in the comments below.
Poonam is the founder and director of The Maharani Diaries. She has a passion for South Asian fashion and weddings. Drinking coffee is one of her favourite pastimes and she also enjoys donating her time for charity. You’ll often find her volunteering on the side for various community events.